Evangelicals Lie About Gay Marriage

James Dobson’s Focus on the Family, a right-wing evangelical group, figures that it has enough power and money that it can lie and get away with it. To a certain extent it is true. One of his so-called “researchers,” Glenn Stanton, released a paper in early March 2008 distorting the American Anthropological Association’s (AAA) stance on marriage.

In the release, Stanton, an employee of Focus in the Family who does not identify himself as an anthropologist, claims “a family is a unit that draws from the two types of humanity, male and female.” He also states that there is a clear consensus among anthropologists on this definition. What a whopper. Check out what the AAA has to say about his position.

Stanton is not a new face to those of us in Massachusetts who had to defend our families against his ersatz research at the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court in the ultimately victorious 2003 Goodridge case that granted marriage equality. We also came up against a lot of his unsubstantiated research that was distributed by the Massachusetts Family Institute, during subsequent legislative struggles to preserve marriage equality.

When you see Glenn Stanton cited as the “expert,” vet the research–thoroughly. He’s more creative writer than researcher.

Gay Marriage Boon to Massachusetts Economy

Kudos to Lisa van der pool who wrote in the Boston Business Journal on Feb. 28, 2008 about another plus for marriage equality in Massachusetts. Not surprisingly, she asserts that equal treatment of all people attracts talented workers. While there has been much anecdotal documentation of gay and lesbian couples coming to Massachusetts because of the protections that marriage offers, it’s noteworthy that a trade journal like BBJ has published this piece.

Note that the contention of an “exodus of families from Massachusetts because of the same-sex marriage law” by Kris Mineau, a marriage equality opponent, has not been supported in any published story.

Here is van der Pool’s story in its entirety (for those who are not subscribers to BBJ):

Gay marriage attracts out-of-state workforce
Boston Business Journal
– by Lisa van der Pool Journal staff

Massachusetts has a dubious reputation for losing talented workers to less pricey markets. But a trend that runs counter to the talent drain has emerged in the form of the state’s controversial same-sex marriage law.
Massachusetts native Jeffrey Webb loved the Los Angeles lifestyle. He had a great job as a law partner in the L.A. office of Gibson, Dunn & Crutcher LLP, and his life partner, Mark Schuster, was equally happy with his work as chief of general pediatrics and professor at UCLA. “We both had positions that were hard to replicate,” said Webb, 43.

 Even so, Webb and Schuster left the California sunshine in December and moved to Brookline with their twin sons. It wasn’t the promise of enduring a gloomy Massachusetts winter that beckoned them — it was the ability to live in Massachusetts as a legally married couple.

“That was something that was really important to us,” said Webb, who married Schuster in Massachusetts soon after the couple bought a vacation home in Truro in 2004. Webb has since joined the law firm McDermott, Will & Emery LLP as a partner in the trial department, and Schuster is now the chief of general pediatrics and vice chair for health policy research at Children’s Hospital Boston.

Massachusetts has a dubious reputation for losing talented workers to less pricey markets. But a trend that runs counter to the talent drain has emerged in the form of the state’s controversial same-sex marriage law, a powerful lure for same-sex couples who want to live in a place where they can get married, gain legal rights and have access to spousal health benefits. In fact, some observers see the influx of same-sex couples as a boon for the state’s economy.

“Since the marriage law passed, we see a lot more (gay) professionals moving into the Boston area,” said Henry Hoey, a board member of the Greater Boston Business Council, a chamber of commerce for gay professionals. The organization’s membership has increased 5 percent to 1,100 members since last year. “The effects of this law are starting to take hold.”

In 2003, the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court legalized same-sex marriage in a landmark ruling. The decision sparked an intense effort by same-sex marriage opponents to amend the state Constitution; but that effort died in the Legislature last year. Since 2004, 10,168 same-sex couples have said their “I-Do’s” in Massachusetts. And while same-sex nuptials have tapered off since the initial rush in 2004 when 6,121 couples tied the knot — last year 550 same-sex couples got married in the state — that likely reflects an expected leveling off since the law was passed, according to the Massachusetts Registry of Vital Records and Statistics.

The number of same-sex couples who have moved here since 2004 is not tracked by any organization. Martha Livingston, founder and CEO of Inclusive Recruitment LLC, a Boston-based staffing firm that places gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender professionals in welcoming workplaces, has noticed an increase in gay and lesbian couples who have moved or are planning to move to the state.

“There’s a woman that I’m working with right now because she came to Massachusetts so her marriage would be recognized,” said Livingston.
Massachusetts’s population could use some fresh faces. From 2003 to 2005, the population fell to 6,429,137 from 6,438,510, according to estimates from the U.S. Census Bureau. While the population crept back up to 6,449,755 in 2007, according to census estimates, the population grew a mere 1.5 percent from 2000 to 2006.
Not everyone agrees that same-sex marriage will ultimately prove beneficial to the state’s economy.

“We view same-sex marriage as a radical social experiment and to promote it on behalf of the economy is akin to promoting casinos on behalf of the economy,” said Kris Mineau, president of the Massachusetts Family Institute in Woburn. “There’s anecdotal evidence that (there has been) an exodus of families from Massachusetts because of the same-sex marriage law. So there’s two sides to the story.”

It’s not only the legal rights afforded by the Massachusetts law, but also the relatively open-minded political climate of the region that is drawing more gay couples. Lisa Forest and her wife, Anne Marie Willer, both had good jobs and owned their own home in the Dallas area. But in 2006 the couple left Texas for Massachusetts and rented an apartment in Quincy. Forest works at Bridgewater State College, where she launched the college’s GLBTA Pride Center. Willer works as a librarian at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. The couple married in 2006.

“It was a difficult move, but I found the political climate inhospitable,” Forest said of her time in Texas. She and Willer lived there for five years.

“There was a lot of psychological and physical energy that I was investing in just living my day-to-day life, because I had to defend myself against anti-gay sentiment and rhetoric. (But mainly) we were taking too large of financial and legal risks remaining there as strangers, legally,” Forest said.

The state’s same-sex marriage law could provide local businesses with a unique competitive edge, according to Carissa Cunningham, director of public affairs at Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders in Boston.

“Massachusetts has a reputation for fairness both generally and in the specifics that it offers gay and lesbian couples, especially those with children who are concerned about raising their kids in a place that supports their family and protects their legal rights,” said Cunningham. “It makes the state competitive.”

While federal law does not recognize same-sex marriage, the benefits for gay couples who decide to marry on a state level still outweigh the drawbacks, according to Rick Kraft, an attorney who moved from Berkeley, Calif., to Massachusetts with his partner and their daughter in 2004. Benefits include partner health insurance, filing joint state tax returns and automatic inheritance if one spouse dies. One downside to marriage is that in the event of a split, alimony payments are not tax-deductable for same-sex couples, according to Kraft, who focuses his estate planning practice on the legal needs of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people.

 “There are hundreds of automatic rights that come to couples when they’re married,” said Kraft, 46.

 Chris Ott, 37, and his partner, David Danaher, 40, decided to leave Wisconsin after the state passed a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage. Ott moved to Cambridge after he sold his home in Madison. Danaher, a professor of Slavic languages at the University of Wisconsin, plans to remain until he finds a post in Boston.

The two haven’t married in Massachusetts yet.

“The passage of that amendment meant that there were going to continue to be legal and financial barriers and hardships which we didn’t want to contend with, especially later in life,” said Ott, communications director at the ACLU’s Boston office. “We wanted to live somewhere where these issues had already been settled.”
Lisa van der Pool can be reached at lvanderpool@bizjournals.com.

California Marriage Equality–“How Long?”

Martin Luther King, Jr. repeatedly asked, “How long?” How long until justice will come?

Just so our gay marriage allies in California like Molly McKay and Davina Kotulski, a couple for 12 years and activists for 10 years on this issue, continue their fight for the civil right of marriage.

King, an inveterate worker in the struggle for justice, persisted doggedly in the face of daunting odds. McKay and Kotulski and their allies in Marriage Equality USA now focus their energies on the California Supreme Court to seek justice. McKay and Kotulski were at the court for the historic argument on March 4, 2008 as were John Lewis and Stuart Gaffney, a couple for over 20 years.

Gaffney explained to interviewers that his interracial parents had to rely on the same court over 60 years ago to be allowed to marry. Now he and his partner Lewis hope the court will grant them the same civil right to marry that it granted to his parents.

The California legislature has voted for marriage equality twice. Twice the governor has vetoed the bill. Couples will not have to continue asking “How long” forever. The court must rule within 90 days. Not long.

Ellen, Murder, and Love in California

My point—and I have one—is that there is a connection between murder and love in the current highly charged culture war going on in California around the issue of marriage equality. Ellen almost makes the point.

 

Today the CA Supreme Court will hear a landmark case that seeks to bring marriage equality to millions of the state’s LGBT citizens. On February 12, 2008, 15 year-old Larry King of Oxnard, CA was murdered by a fellow eighth grader, Brandon, whom he asked to be his Valentine. My argument seems like a leap, but stay with me.

 

Ellen DeGeneres spoke up about Larry’s murder on her Leap Year Show. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QcMEL3_YsVI 

 

Millions of Ellen’s fans watched her thoughtful commentary on Larry’s murder, and over 137,000 have caught it on YouTube. Her arguments prompted over 840 viewers to write a comment on the YouTube site and 14 others to post video responses. Thousands then watch those videos. Well, you get it, the multiplier effect. When Ellen speaks, millions of fans listen and studio audiences go wild. A very good thing.

 

Ellen talks about the seeds of violence against gay people: punch lines in comedy monologues, gay jokes, verbal and physical abuse that can escalate into murder. I call it The Violence Escalator (see below). Very important information. Had she taken note of the current anti-gay marriage climate that is being whipped up in CA, folks might have made one more important connection. Climates of hate breed violence.

 

Today in California’s highest court, the Alliance Defense Fund and their ilk will argue that gay people are not worthy of marriage equality. For months, paid signature-gatherers funded by anti-marriage equality groups such as the Colorado-based Focus on the Family and the Virginia-based National Organization for Marriage have been all over California spreading the word of hate against gay people. In shopping centers, outside movie theatres, near coffee shops, the public is learning that they can stand up for prejudice and hate by signing the ballot petition for the November 2008 election to put marriage equality discrimination into the California constitution.

 

While I’m grateful to Ellen for what she did say, I wish that she had made that last connection: bigots are actively stirring up hate in California. In a climate of hate, innocent kids like Larry get murdered because they think that they are as free to love as everyone else. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

The Violence EscalatorViolence starts small but can escalate steadily and rapidly. Here are some of the steps: 

STEP 1 Jokes that disparage classes of people (i.e. women, lesbians, people of color)

STEP 2 Slurs that demean (i.e. “fag,” “bitch,” “gook”)

STEP 3 Threats and blackmail

STEP 4 Bullying that becomes physical

STEP 5 Psychological threats and bullying

STEP 6 Physical violence

STEP 7 Murder

Oscars, The L-Word, and LGBT Equality

Honolulu, HI–Being blessed by being in the middle of the Pacific, I could at an early hour channel surf between the glitz of the 80th Annual Oscars and The L-Word where Captain Tasha Williams, a decorated Iraq veteran, was getting drummed out of the military for homosexual conduct.

I kept hoping that in my ADD surfing behavior I wouldn’t miss the by-now-expected “gay moment” on the Oscars. Fortunately, I didn’t and the moment was a triumph for all of us struggling for LGBT civil rights.

In the midst of the Oscar’s garish sets, the wonders of technology allowed us to be transported to the desert in Iraq. There male and female military personnel, in the only costumes they get to wear, desert camouflague fatigues, presented the nominees for Best Short Documentary.

For me the irony sizzled. One nominee, Sari’s Mother, shows how the US has thrown the Iraqi medical system into disarray. Another, Freeheld, demonstrates that the freedom and liberty that some LGBT citizens fight for abroad are not theirs at home. And the Oscar went to Freeheld!

Freeheld tells the brave story of the final months of a New Jersey police officer’s fight with cancer and with the elected Board of Freeholders that governs Ocean County, NJ. Garden State Equality, especially the ever resourceful and impassioned Steve Goldstein, plays a crucial role in the poignant struggle of Detective Lieutenant Laurel Hester’s battle for her domestic partner Stacie Andree’s right to her pension benefits and financial security. Lieutenant Hester and Garden State Equality are the heroes of this wrenching saga.

I was stunned by the film’s power when I saw it last spring at the Boston Lesbian and Gay Film Festival and not surprised at all when it walked away with a Boston festival prize, a Sundance, and now an Oscar.

The L-Word’s fictional Captain Williams fighting a military court and the real Lieutenant Hester struggling for justice throw into sharp relief the discrimination LGBT people suffer and the bravery of those who will not accept it. Military and police officers put themselves in harm’s way for our safety. Injustice seems all the more ironic in the denial of their equality.

Know Thy Neighbor–On the Move in FL

Know Thy Neighbor (KTN) once again is bringing transparency to the ballot petition process–this time in Florida. What KTN did for the cause of equality in Massachusetts, it is now doing for all families in Florida. AND as a sidelight of their advocacy, some Floridians are getting a civics lesson.

Folks who claim that they never signed the petition to put a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage and even civil unions or domestic partnerships for heterosexuals on the ballot are learning, thanks to the KTN website, that their names were among the over 611,000 that counted.  Did unscrupulous signature-gatherers put their names on petitions?

Other Floridians who did sign the petition are learning that their signature is a matter of public record. They are astonished to see their names on the Know Thy Neighbor website. Thanks to a collaboration between Christ Church of Peace in Jacksonville, FL and KTN discrimination will not be able to hide behind a cloak of secrecy. Check out a Florida TV news report on the issues. 

Fairness for All Families offers Floridians strategies for fighting the discriminatory constitutional amendment. Know Thy Neighbor offers Floridians the opportunity to identify petition signers and begin conversations with neighbors, friends, and family members who may not know that their names are on the petition or who may not understand how hateful the constitutional amendment really is.

NJ Civil Unions vs. MA Gay Marriage

Well it took another commission in yet another state to make clear that civil unions are not marriages and thus do not give all the rights, benefits, and privileges of marriage. According to the Philadelphia Inquirer which obtained an early copy of the findings of the NJ Civil Union Review Commission, civil unions in the Garden State have been a failure.

Steven Goldstein who chairs Garden State Equality and who also co-chairs the Civil Union Review Commission had harsh words for the civil unions law saying that it “segegates, discriminates and humiliates the very people it is supposed to protect.”

Members of the New Jersey LGBT community have voted with their feet. As of mid-January only 2, 329 couples have walked into their municipal offices and applied for a civil union license. Despite the posturing of what’s left of the Democratic presidential candidates that civil unions are “as good as” marriages, folks in NJ just do not believe it.

Commission hearings took testimony from 96 people, among them Lynn Fontaine Newsome, president of the NJ State Bar Association, who called NJ civil unions “a failed experiment.”

The findings cite Massachusetts as the only state that has provided LGBT relationship equality. Everyone knows what marriage is. Folks in VT, CT, NJ, and now NH are still trying to figure out what civil unions are. While that is happening, LGBT people are being discriminated against–even though they are in civil unions that are meant to protect them. Or perhaps the civil unions are just meant to give LGBT people a crumb and placate marriage equality opponents.

Massachusetts, with 10,000 same-sex couples married, offers a legitimate object lesson to those who want to study relationship equality in a fair and open-minded way

Suzanne Brockmann Courts Equality

Courting equality with romance, thrills, and suspense
by Patricia A. Gozemba
Bay Windows Contributor
Thursday Feb 21, 2008

Reading the dedication to Suzanne Brockmann’s novel Hot Target blew me away. NY Times best-selling romance author Brockmann came out as the mother of a gay son, explained his coming out, lauded PFLAG (Parents Family and Friends of Lesbians and Gays), and became an instant role model of a straight ally for millions of readers of the romance-thriller-suspense genre. Not exactly the crowd one would routinely target to win over to the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) equality movement. But I’m getting ahead of myself. Read the whole article.

California Dreamin’

    The news out of New York and Oregon in the past week has been great. The Empire State will now recognize gay marriages performed outside of its borders. Oregon’s domestic partnership provision has gone into effect. Now this good news is topped off with the news that on March 4, 2008, the top court in California will hear a marriage equality case that has collapsed together four separate cases. Within 90 days the court will render a decision.

California is one of those crucial states that has fought for and against marriage equality at every turn. The legislature has approved marriage equality in two separate votes and Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger has vetoed the bills twice. Now the high court will decide. But for those of us who watch California closely the spectre of another vote at the ballot box always looms.

Of course Matthew Staver of Liberty Counsel in Orlando, FL will be in California arguing to uphold a ban on marriage. Of late, Staver has been very busy in Florida helping to round up the necessary signatures to get a vote against gay marriage on the Florida ballot in November, 2008. To the dismay of many of us across the country, the necessary signatures have been obtained. It’s time to get out support for terrific grassroots organizations like Fairness for All Families in Florida and Marriage Equality in California.

Florida Fairytale or Tale of Terror?

Courting Equality Draft a constitutional amendment that is divisive and sweeping in its possibilities for endangering committed and established relationships of all Floridians, straight and gay, and call it the “Florida Marriage Protection Amendment.” Make sure that it’s ambiguous enough to ultimately be able to do away with domestic partnerships that are recognized in a number of Florida municipalities. Use seemingly transparent language, “Inasmuch as marriage is the legal union of only one man and one woman as husband and wife, no other legal union that is treated as marriage or the substantial equivalent thereof shall be valid or recognized.” Consider the legal arguments that can be hung on “substantial equivalent.”

Just pretend that the amendment is aimed only at preventing the marriage equality of same-sex couples and that it is vitally needed. Posture that the 1997 Florida Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) statute is not solid enough to prevent “activist” judges from undoing it. Keep up the pretense for four years as you gather the requisite 611,009 signatures to place the amendment on the November 2008 ballot. When you get 612,192 signatures by late December 2007, weeks before the February 1, 2008 deadline, hold a press conference in Orlando and announce it with fanfare. More