Patricia A. Gozemba
For those who doubt the efficacy of nation-wide rallies like last Saturdayâ€™s about Prop 8, I have two words: Wanda Sykes. It was worth dragging thousands of us out from Honolulu to Portland, Maine to have Wanda Sykes show up at a Las Vegas rally and come out to the world.
Â Married for just 10 days before the Prop 8 vote torpedoed marriage equality in California, Sykes and her wife are in marriage limbo along with 17, 999 other couples. Hopefully Sykesâ€™s public reflection on being in the closet will resonate with those in the LGBT community, still not ready to come out.
When Sykes told the crowd, â€œYou know, I donâ€™t really talk about my sexual orientation. I didnâ€™t feel like I had to. I was just living my life, not necessarily in the closet, but I was living my life. Everybody that knows me personally, they know Iâ€™m gay. But thatâ€™s the way people should be able to live their lives. Now, I gotta get in their face.â€
Yeah, Wanda, we all have to come out. We can assume that people who voted for Prop 8 didnâ€™t know that you were gay. Maybe that would have shifted opinions. I can imagine a great 30 second ad with you and your wife. California could have used some gay people in their ads for sure. The elegant logic in â€œWanda Sykes on Gay Marriage,â€ is a winner. â€œIf you donâ€™t believe in same-sex marriage, then donâ€™t marry someone of the same-sex.â€
Okay, Wanda, now that youâ€™re out, I want more. You were right â€œour community was attackedâ€ by the vote on Prop 8.Â Your logic, â€œWe shouldnâ€™t have to be out here demanding something that we should automatically have as citizens of this country.â€ Wanda, tell the world. Feel free to get in the face of those who donâ€™t believe that you are as good as they are. It will make a difference. Everyone’s coming out does.